“The Wound Is The Place Where The Light Enters You”— Rumi
Therapy that takes you seriously: your history, your relationships, and your whole person.
I’m Anika Doherty, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Gatos and San Francisco, and online throughout California. I work with couples who are stuck, hurting, or wanting more from their relationship. And with individuals who want to understand themselves better and live differently.
Who I Work With
I work with both couples and individuals across a wide range of concerns. Whatever brings you here, I pay close attention to who you are, what you carry, and what you need.
For Couples
What would it feel like to stop dreading conflict and have a relationship with real intimacy, connection, and joy?
- Couples in recurring conflict caught in patterns they can't break
- Couples recovering from infidelity or betrayal
- Couples navigating ADHD and its impact on the relationship
- Couples who want to feel closer and more connected
For Individuals
Individual therapy is a space to be met without judgment, by someone whose only agenda is to help you find more ease, meaning, and self-compassion.
- People carrying anxiety, depression, or OCD
- Those processing grief, loss, or major life transitions
- People healing from trauma or religious trauma
- Anyone who wants to understand themselves more fully
For Couples
What would it feel like to stop dreading conflict and have a relationship with real intimacy, connection, and joy? That’s what I want to work on with you.
Every couple develops patterns. Some of those patterns protect: they keep us safe from old wounds. But protection has a cost. When we close down to guard ourselves, we also close down to each other. Some of us go quiet and pull away. Others pursue, push, escalate, desperately trying to reach someone who is withdrawing or going quiet. Neither move gets us closer. The challenge therefore is to learn to stay open and curious, and to repair after rupture. The goal isn’t a relationship without conflict. It’s one where conflict no longer costs you the connection.
In couples work, I pay as much attention to each of you individually as I do to the relationship between you. Who you are, what you carry, and what you need matters.
This work can open the door to:
- A new ability to recognize what’s happening beneath the surface of an argument, in yourself and your partner
- The capacity to stay open instead of shutting down, to learn rather than protect
- The ability to stay in a difficult conversation without escalating or stonewalling
- Real tools for communication, repair, and self-regulation
- A deeper understanding of your partner’s inner world, including aspects you thought you already knew
- The ability to feel your own and each other’s underlying emotions, not just the surface presentation
- Productive conflict: disagreement that doesn’t damage the relationship
- Greater intimacy, connection, and joy with each other
For Individuals
Individual therapy is a space to be met without judgment, by someone whose only agenda is to help you find more ease, more meaning, and greater compassion for yourself. Maybe you are carrying depression, anxiety, or grief that has become too heavy to hold alone. Maybe OCD or intrusive thoughts are running your life. Maybe past trauma is showing up in ways you can’t fully explain.
I will work through any discomfort with you in a gentle yet profound way. Together we can explore your emotional and behavioral patterns, make sense of your past, your thoughts, and your feelings, and find your way toward a life that feels better.
This work can open the door to:
- A clearer understanding of your emotional and behavioral patterns: where they come from, and how awareness itself creates space for both acceptance and change
- The ability to process grief, trauma, or painful experiences
- Relief from the grip of anxiety, OCD, or depression
- A stronger sense of your own truth, your own values, and what you actually want from your life
- Greater self-compassion: learning to meet yourself with the same kindness you would offer someone you care about
- More ease and meaning. More of what actually matters.
Good therapy matters for mental health and for building better relationships. People come for many reasons: to feel better, to worry less, to find a way through something that has become too heavy to carry alone, or to save something they love. I honor and welcome all of it here.
I believe that real change comes not from pushing harder, but from understanding yourself more deeply and meeting what you find with compassion. I bring that into every session, whether I’m working with a couple or an individual.
The Approaches I Draw On
I draw on a range of approaches tailored to you, including Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Developmental Model, psychodynamic therapy, parts-based work: Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST), Brainspotting, Hakomi, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) for OCD. For couples navigating ADHD, I hold certification as an ADHD-Certified Clinical Services Provider (ADHD-CCSP).
You can learn more about each approach on our Methods pages, or feel free to ask me directly during our consultation.